Self-Acceptance

I honestly believe that we are all products of settings and choices we have had chosen in our daily lives. Our dealings with people around us, our viewpoints, our standards and our beliefs are all reflections of our foundation, the environment we interact with and the things we see, hear, believe and those we are involved with. Self-acceptance is a long-way process of loving ourselves and being happy with who and what we are. When we have truly accepted ourselves, there will be enough contentment and joy in our lives.

As I have personally reflected on my life’s settings and choices, I have come up with realities about myself which I already have accepted. I can never change my past no matter how painful it was. I was a product of rejection in the family but this never stopped me from loving and respecting them up until today. I would claim that I am strong, willed and necessary. I believe that I am beautiful in my own way, and no matter what happened to me in the past, with all my woundedness, mistakes and failures, I know for myself that I am a success, a gift, and loved by GOD just as I am. I have also accepted how others see me as a person, most especially with their words of affirmation which in one way or another have added to how I view and carry myself.

On the other hand, I am also confronted with a reality about myself which I would say I have not fully accepted yet and this is certainly not good. That is when I become too allowing for people to hurt me emotionally. This I mean when I become too receptive of the rejections of the people around me, and when I become too attached to them emotionally, then expect greatly from them. I always give my all when I love, be it a family or friend. Because of this, I also expect them to do me this favor in return. And when something happens, when my expectations fail, I become so affected and hurt.

For these realities, I am really convinced to do something and change what’s not so good especially because I have not fully accepted it yet as part of my person. I can start by being loving to my family and friends without expecting anything in return. Yes, it’s unquestionably fine to be so attached to them but I have to be accepting, too. I have to always bear in my mind that it is impossible to please everyone and my ways will never be the same as that of others’.  This, then is unconditional love and unconditional generosity.

I now realized that I am equally dignified with the rest of God’s creation. What I say and how I say things, what I do and how I act, are all reflections of my realities within. So when I can fully accept myself and all my realities, surely I will be the happiest no matter how unbecoming the situation may be, and I can always look for beauty in this wounded world.