I honestly believe that we
are all products of settings and choices we have had chosen in our daily lives.
Our dealings with people around us, our viewpoints, our standards and our
beliefs are all reflections of our foundation, the environment we interact with
and the things we see, hear, believe and those we are involved with. Self-acceptance
is a long-way process of loving ourselves and being happy with who and what we
are. When we have truly accepted ourselves, there will be enough contentment
and joy in our lives.
As I have personally
reflected on my life’s settings and choices, I have come up with realities
about myself which I already have accepted. I can never change my past no
matter how painful it was. I was a product of rejection in the family but this
never stopped me from loving and respecting them up until today. I would claim
that I am strong, willed and necessary. I believe that I am beautiful in my own
way, and no matter what happened to me in the past, with all my woundedness,
mistakes and failures, I know for myself that I am a success, a gift, and loved
by GOD just as I am. I have also accepted how others see me as a person, most
especially with their words of affirmation which in one way or another have
added to how I view and carry myself.
On the other hand, I am
also confronted with a reality about myself which I would say I have not fully
accepted yet and this is certainly not good. That is when I become too allowing
for people to hurt me emotionally. This I mean when I become too receptive of the rejections of the
people around me, and when I become too attached to them emotionally, then expect
greatly from them. I always give my all when I love, be it a family or friend.
Because of this, I also expect them to do me this favor in return. And when
something happens, when my expectations fail, I become so affected and hurt.
For these realities, I am really convinced to do
something and change what’s not so good especially because I have not fully
accepted it yet as part of my person. I can start by being loving to my family
and friends without expecting anything in return. Yes, it’s unquestionably fine to be so attached to them but I have to be accepting,
too. I have to always bear in my mind that it is impossible to please everyone
and my ways will never be the same as that of others’. This, then is unconditional
love and unconditional generosity.
I now realized that I am
equally dignified with the rest of God’s creation. What I say
and how I say things, what I do and how I act, are all reflections of my
realities within. So when I can fully accept myself and all my realities,
surely I will be the happiest no matter how unbecoming the situation may be,
and I can always look for beauty in this wounded world.
